Sorry, guys. You get to read me vent about a private life issue right now.
My best friend, my confidant, my co-shopper, and my companion is moving. Her husband accepted a position in a PhD program 2,000 miles away. They leave in June.
I am fully aware that it is inexcusably selfish of me to want them to stay. But in the past six months everyone I am close to in this state has moved away – they were the last ones standing, and come June I get to watch them go, too.
Is it terrible that I feel abandoned? Nearly betrayed? I came running here when she needed me. I packed up my life and came without a second thought. I lived in hell for two years without stable, steady employment but did not move back home where employment existed – because she needed me. And yet, so casually, she can leave?
I know. You don’t have to say it – it is childish and selfish. I am happy for them, honest I am. But I am really scared. What do I do when there is no one left but Ludo and I?
mac
5 months ago
You’ll have us out her in blogville.
I am sorry your buddy is leaving you.
No, it’s not so selfish, you feel a sense of loss, I can relate.
I moved here a few years ago because my ex-wife wanted to be closer to her family. She divorced me. Now, other than my son visiting and staying a few nights and weekends, I’m alone…Just me and my girl, Hally.
You’re tougher than me! You’ll make it.
I know, none of what I just wrote makes it any easier for you. Sorry.
Uruk
5 months ago
Sorry to hear you’re going through that.
I agree with Mac, you’re not being selfish exactly.
You did make a sacrifice, but you know her obligations keep her from doing the same.
But I sense you don’t feel like she’s quite as appreciative of you packing up to be with her and enduring your difficulties while being a true friend.
I’m sorry you’re dealing with that.
Do you see yourself moving now? Too soon to tell?
the lion
5 months ago
Uruk, I think you are very close to accurate. I know her obligation to her husband comes first. Of course it does! I would be disappointed in her if it did not. But I think a big part of it is jealousy. I hate Oregon. I would have left here right after I arrived if not for her, her husband, and my other good friends who recently relocated.
But now? Now I have a job. And I like this job – I can see myself here for a long time. And the job market still sucks. How can I move? After years of struggling after the last move it terrifies me to the core to even consider it.
Mac, you did help. Thanks to the both of you.